Trauma is irreversible. How it shapes us is our choice. | Sasha Joseph Neulinger | TEDxBozeman
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Sasha Joseph Neulinger speaks about his journey in life as a survivor of multi-generational sexual abuse.
Sasha Joseph Neulinger is a native of Pennsylvania who moved to Montana to pursue a BFA in Film Production from Montana State University. He is the Co-Founder and Head of Production at Step 1 Films which has a mission “To deliver truthful and compassionate storytelling through the unifying experience of film.” Sasha Joseph has worked behind the scenes on National Geographic’s award winning series, “America, The Wild” as an editing assistant and production assistant. At Step 1 Films, he has produced, directed, and edited multiple commercial videos for various corporate clients, including Simms Fishing Products and Wisetail, among others. He is currently directing his first feature length documentary, “Rewind To Fast-Forward,” an autobiographical film about his life surviving multi-generational sexual abuse. Sasha Joseph also travels nationally as a public speaker, advocating for reforms in child advocacy and child abuse prevention.
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  • Kevin Cris
    Kevin Cris


  • Kevin Cris
    Kevin Cris

    thank you

  • The Undying
    The Undying

    With how the world has been treating my problems, it’s hard to tell anyone my story. I think it’s best for my story to remain a mystery than for it to be known

  • King Kyogre
    King Kyogre

    I was in my home and a burglar tricked me into opening my house and he stole my laptop and I keep remembering him running from me and he had a piece of ceramic with him .He stole from me because I was a 13 year old and if he want to hit me and he can.I would have not been It was two days ago.I ve been getting sleeping problems and I can't concentrate during school because I was shaking all the time. I was scared and im still recovering from that

  • gbessone

    1 out of 3 women? That sounds like a huge statistic

  • DID & PTSD under 1 roof
    DID & PTSD under 1 roof

    Trauma can ruin lives and it all depends how one handles it.Each can not let it define them but that is a choice by those who suffer, We are all survivors in our own way, we all have a story, it is how we allow ourselves to shape our lives. Thank you for sharing this video...

  • Michael Anthanos
    Michael Anthanos

    Down to ten seconds. scrubbing my comments. ?

  • Essence CalligraFreak
    Essence CalligraFreak

    I started crying 10 seconds in and haven't stopped. I'm so happy the audience listened. I resonated with so much in this. And, dude, the strength, Sasha thank you.

  • Sow AG
    Sow AG

    This man is quite the person.

  • Nevan Geisen
    Nevan Geisen

    And to think that this is the same kid who said "hey grandma, how about another grape soda"

  • Ri Mu
    Ri Mu

    I’m different because I always hurt I’m going through hard times All my life has been abuse and abuse and poverty No one helps

  • siuabc

    I have so much childhood traumas with emotional abuse and abandonment... I have seen the huge impact it has throughout my life, to this day, at midlife.

  • Sage Universe
    Sage Universe

    I'm glad he had access to the help he needed. This is not available for most people. Good for him.

  • Kurlis levine
    Kurlis levine

    Talking to my inner child always makes me cry. I can be home or in public places it always makes me so sad. I just pray everyday to have my own family so that i can show her how happy we can be.

  • tall32guy

    He's so cute! Big hugs to him! I am so glad he has moved on and apparently begun to heal. ❤️

  • Jake Corynthian
    Jake Corynthian

    Dear Sasha, thank you for helping survivors through your bravery and honesty, the world is lucky to have you in it. Thank you 🙏 All the best with your documentary, I will support it!

  • Niki Mikidee
    Niki Mikidee

    You're not alone 🖤

  • Iuliancnb

    You can release trauma. Check the "surrender mechanism" used in spirituality

  • ivy wang
    ivy wang

    what happened to me before. thanks God I cope up already

  • coda creator
    coda creator

    Sometimes you have no choice. I didn't even know I was suffering until I collapsed. My therapist tells me the journey to wellness is going to take time, effort, and support. Once you have a handle on the trauma, then you can reshape it. But getting a trip takes help.

  • Kitty Michelle
    Kitty Michelle

    Thank you for this ❤

  • Brittney

    this was beautiful how he as a grown up helped the 4 year old in him

  • Jeffrey Koenig
    Jeffrey Koenig

    Ouch...yes...I know

  • gabru

    So brave and powerful , GBU Sasha 👏

  • Scott Jones
    Scott Jones

    I'm 50, and just now letting the world know. Thanks, Sasha. Great work. Can't wait to see your film.

  • Believe me of my heart
    Believe me of my heart

    Woah irreversible. Ouuuuuuuuch.

  • Alyssa Amundson
    Alyssa Amundson

    Keep fighting the good fight. Your life will only get better from here on.

  • Julia Zhou
    Julia Zhou

    I cried so hard. How can anybody thumb this down????

  • Marie Page
    Marie Page

    Thank you for this.

  • Katie Gallagher
    Katie Gallagher

    This made me cry. I wasn't abused, but something terrible happened to me about 3 years ago and everyone thought I did something I didn't. I was in a lot of physical and mental pain and I couldn't talk about it because it was too embarrassing. Now as I grow older, It's becoming more and more relevant that I face it again. I'm scared and ashamed and I don't think I'm strong enough. I need help.

  • Jennifer Hoppenrath
    Jennifer Hoppenrath

    Thank you for this. That is all I can say. Thank you.

  • Amina Ismail
    Amina Ismail

    You are telling my story, it's unforgettable

  • mny benchikh
    mny benchikh

    Y re so brave to be able to share yr painful experience .

  • Ann Marruffo
    Ann Marruffo


  • Lana Campbell-Moore
    Lana Campbell-Moore

    Thank you for sharing your story,I'm a survivor as well...

  • Winter Goosey
    Winter Goosey

    Please pray for my healing. My niece is w a the pedafile who molested, me and groomed me. She is now being groomed. My whole family fails to act to prevent this, but instead looks the other way.

    • Winter Goosey
      Winter Goosey

      Please pray for vindication, justice for me.

  • Sarah Marissa Maglalang
    Sarah Marissa Maglalang

    Jesus, that was beautiful.

  • Court ney
    Court ney

    Sasha has such a beautiful gentle soul x

  • Life.Energy.Movement with Laura
    Life.Energy.Movement with Laura

    Gorgeous talk. Thank you for your message and vulnerability

  • Nidey De La Cruz
    Nidey De La Cruz

    Thank you for sharing! Takes a lot of courage to do something like this. Hugs and healing energy

  • Victoria Ko
    Victoria Ko

    No one deserves to be treated so badly. No child, no man, no woman, no person should ever be made to feel so badly.

  • Serious Music
    Serious Music

    Y’all know this is the kid from Shallow Hal?

  • Frank Douglas
    Frank Douglas

    He is a very brave man

  • jeremy cocking
    jeremy cocking

    We all support and love this guy

  • Pauline Sereni
    Pauline Sereni

    I'm 51 and It's allot more helpful from hearing from someone who actually dealt with trauma then Doctors who really don't understand or experienced trauma, Sasha is very brave.

  • Paul Grocott
    Paul Grocott

    Here comes a hornets nest I know, you need to forgive too

  • Hello

    I had a past life regression that gave me ptsd. And its difficult to talk about to the doctor

  • Robert Richardson
    Robert Richardson

    It is amazing how much you actually know and understand at 4 yrs old. I have been there.

  • Jay Xiong
    Jay Xiong

    My heart goes out to you. You are so strong 💪🏻


    God bless you Sasha!! You are amazing and strong!! Thanks for sharing and helping others!

  • Sirena Mermaid
    Sirena Mermaid

    The silence inside screams within’s so important that we go back & pick up that hurting child within & free them...let them know they are loved & that you will keep them safe...they are heard-they have a VOICE!!!

  • Hola Chicos
    Hola Chicos


  • Ms Kitty
    Ms Kitty


  • REC1 Productions
    REC1 Productions

    All I can say is, God Bless you Sasha! You're one incredible young man and thank you for this life story. Bless you.

  • Corey Piening
    Corey Piening

    Man I turned 40 this year and I am still struggling with my inner pain. I have never believed I could amount to something or felt worthy. I am still working on how to find myself to be ok with me. I think the largest impact on me has been never to have children. It scares me too much. I never seen justice and my step father walks around today free and it is me who is the liar, who tried to destroy an innocent mans life. That really pisses me off

  • Spencer K
    Spencer K

    You are so brave man. I’m also 25 years old and was abused by my uncle. This video actually made me cry

  • Qi Huna
    Qi Huna

    Very simple.................and yet, THE POWERFULLEST THING YOU COULD EVER DO FOR YOURSELF...... "forgive yourself and love yourself". Change the INNER YOU, and everything in your external world advances brightly!!

  • Robin Song
    Robin Song

    I am so sorry that happened to you. That is so unfair. Thank you for sharing your story with us.

  • Undefined PLAY
    Undefined PLAY

    It's not easy, especially when the same thing keeps happening and no matter what I do it's always there, even how hard I try to avoid it.

  • Jaclynn Carter
    Jaclynn Carter

    Thank you for sharing your story. Your strength and voice helps motivate me to heal my wounds, thank you for sharing.